David was hiding in the hills from Saul and needed food for his men so he asked a man for help. “The name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings. 1Sa 25:3 Nabal didn’t help David but Abigail did. Eventually, after Nabal died, David chose Abigail to be his wife. Nabal (meaning fool) saw David as a threat and a thief and dismissed his value completely. On the other hand, Abigal (meaning source of joy) saw destiny and worth in David. She decided to do for him what he couldn’t do for himself. Her honourable heart saw honour, therefore she showed honour and her future was changed forever. The foolish-hearted died and the joy giver became queen! Her future was the result of how she saw David. Our heart has eyes; therefore our heart determines how we see others. Your heart, not your circumstances determine the future of all your relationships and your true success in life.
What came into Abigails “tomorrow” was determined by what was in her heart “today.” “Out of the heart come the issues of life” Prov. 4:20-23 The condition of our heart is the source of our life. “As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Prov 23.7 If we wish to change our life, we only have to change our heart. Our two choices in relationships are, to be a “Fool or a source of Joy” We decide what is going to be in our heart; mistrust, faultfinding and negativity or love, faith and honour.
Friend, don’t let your life circumstances determine what goes into your heart, rather let your heart determine how you go through your circumstances. Who has God sent into your life for you to help? How do you see them? There is only one thing affecting your marriage relationship – and it’s not your wife’s habits. There is only one thing affecting your happiness at work and your ministry in the house of God – it’s what is in your heart. How are you seeing people?